10x your charisma by learning "The Art of Subtle Flex"

Don’t you just want to roll your eyes when you see a big booty chick posting a big booty pic with the caption “New haircut xoxo”?

Or a picture of a dude in covered in cheap jewelries standing in front of his semi-expensive budget sportscar that has been modified 20 times, while looking into the distance, with a “deep thoughts” caption?

Flexing comes from all shapes and forms, and they all vary in effectiveness. Here we will be discussing the two most effective ways to flex, and show a couple of examples so you can replicate the process.

Keep in mind that everyone have different personalities, but the principles will be the same, you just have to figure out which styles will be the most fitting for yourself.

This Instagram story of me zooming in on my homie’s butt got me close to 15 DMs.

Are you able to spot what I was trying to flex to my followers?

A couple of things were happening.

• I’m at the gym

• I’m at the gym EARLY IN THE MORNING (time stamped)

• I have friends who go to the gym early in the morning with me

• I’m nonchalant and not trying to be cool, which implies that I workout in the morning very often.

Let’s face it, working out in early morning is considered a chad move. If you have someone who also do chad moves with you it means your group is superior.

When you’re also able to convey being nonchalant while doing cool things, that just shows how often you do cool things.

Here’s an example:

If you’re at a carnival, and you have 100 tries to shoot a basketball and win a prize, at some point you’d bound to start throwing trick shots and not care because you have so many chances.

Whereas if you were told you get only one shot, now you’re going to take the shot in an extremely cautious manner.

It’s the same mentality when you’re doing something cool in your life. The person who only eats good food once in a blue moon will make the “perfect” post on Instagram, the perfect caption, the perfect hashtags, the perfect camera angle and lighting etc. That’s a tattle tale that the person doesn’t do interesting things that often.

Versus if you’re having gourmet everyday, you wouldn’t even bother posting it anywhere, or better yet, posting it in a silly manner because you don’t care.

Now, if you’re someone who genuinely is doing cool shit all the time and want to post all the time, there’s a way to do it which makes your flex 100x more likeable, you’ll gain fans instead of salty haters.

Back to the gym examples, it’s unnecessary for me to post everyday to prove that I’m there everyday, by using the subtle flex method. It automatically conveys the message I want to send in a way that people can accept.

It’s sometimes obvious to tell when someone posts workout pictures, and you can just immediately tell that the person really doesn’t go to the gym often, because they’re doing that thing again where they look for the perfect angle, the perfect lighting, the perfect caption etc. You get the idea.

Now I’m not saying your standard mirror and flex selfies don’t work, they will do well and show that you go to the gym all the time because of how buff you look.

That’s concrete proof. However, if you are able to be nonchalant AND have muscles, it’s a more charismatic way to flex because people will not be turned off by your constant boring one dimensional flexes.

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The principle of subtle flex is simple:

Never let the thing you’re flexing take the spotlight.

The biggest mistake of subtle flexing people make is when they try to act like they’re not flexing, but the thing they want to flex is still taking the spotlight.

We’ve all seen pictures of girls showing their cleavage with the caption “new necklace”, or obvious booty pics with the caption of “new shoes.”

No no no no no..

Girls can get away with it, they would still be ridiculed, but there’s always enough horny simps that will give the girls what they want no matter what. So technically what they do works.

Us men however have it way harder. We need to be on top of our games.

Here are some examples on how to subtle flex:

The caption reveals that I am in some sort of intensive training camp up in the mountains. It was a Muay Thai camp but I don’t reveal everything.

2 things will happens,

1) People get curious and asks what training I was participating in, and then I can tell them it was Muay Thai, then they’ll think “Wow, if he’s not showing this cool thing off, how much other cool things is he doing under everyone’s nose?”

2) People don’t ask, which is also good because whatever I can come up with will never beat their imagination.

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Here’s a common type of photo, where people try to look stoic, and then have a stoic try-hard cringy deep though captions.

A try-hard photo paired with silly caption lets people’s guard down and this is exactly what happened. The amount of DMs and engagement I got from this post was extremely high relative to my follower count at the time.

Another example:

Look how insanely try hard this guy is.

You’ll only catch gold digging THOTs with these kinds of pictures, and when you have this kind of money the last thing you want is a bunch of nasty hoes orbiting you and trying to suck away all your money.

Now imagine everything in this picture stays the same, but instead of an expensive watch, you replace it with a silly cheap plastic SpongeBob watch.

How hilarious would that be?

Granted you’ll still get THOTs, but you open your doors to a lot more females that are actually human. On top of that, people will still be salty because of the money you have, but it’ll be a lot harder for them to hate you.

Last example, but an extremely entertaining one:

These goof balls are definitely flexing their wealth and crazy lifestyle.

They’re rich enough to all have full gear, haul a whole car up on a plane, and confident enough to pull this kind of stunt which shows how often they do crazy shit.

But they’re flexing in such a way that is absolutely love-able. And this my friends, is hands down the pinnacle of subtle flex.

I hope I have provided some valuable insights to 10x your charisma game. Please follow me on twitter @kevinlee_hw and subscribe to my blog to get future updates and more tips on how to up your charisma!