The Parallels Between Business And Picking Up Women

(TLDR & free gifts in the bottom, don’t miss it!)

How many Gary V videos have you watched already? How many books on businesses and self help?

Alex Hormozi? Hamza? Alex Becker? Dan Koe? Brandon Carter? Jordan Peterson? David Goggins? Andrew Tate?

The list goes on and on and on…

(Just in case you haven’t heard of all of them yet, they’re all worth checking out.)

How many times have we heard from anyone saying “build your own business”, “grind it out” etc?

How many times have to told ourselves tomorrow will be the day, a day where everything will change for the better.

Then realized we don’t even know what they were referring to when they say “build a business” and “have discipline to work on your business”.

What business? How to even start one?

We have no clarity for so long, and if you’re lucky enough like me, you’ll have actually found something.

That’s very much worth celebrating for. But the next problem comes.

I was absolutely loaded with information and fake motivation, but still was taking 0 action.

There’s this weird resistance in us that keeps us away from achieving our goals.

I have a lot more clarity on what I want to do now, I’ve narrowed downed to 2 things I will go all in on.

1. Creating content to build a brand

2. Sell my service of building websites and consulting on how you can build your own one person online business as well

Clarity is no longer a problem for me anymore. I hope that’s also the case for you.

But the next challenge I am facing now is literally not being able to take actions I know I need to take.

Or rather, taking much longer than necessary to do anything productive.

There’s a strange force stopping us from chasing our dreams, and I would imagine we’re not the only ones going through this problem.

In fact, I’ve personally met and interacted with plenty of people who suffer from the same inaction plague.

I remember something similar happened to me before, it was not related to business at all.

But the root cause behind my inaction for building my business is exactly the same.

This might sound silly, or even repulsive to some, but I don’t care. I want to share anyways because I think it’s important.

6 years ago I was obsessed with content on how to pick up girls.

I would spend hours and hours reading books and watching videos on how to interact with girls in a way that will make them like me.

How to approach, how to talk, and at which point to start getting physical, how physical…

Except all I did was consume content, and never actually tried any of those things out.

I did have a fair share of interaction with women, and had plenty of relationships throughout my life.

I was able to practice these newly acquired skills on people that I naturally meet or whom I’ve already been friends with.

But what I really wanted was the ability to talk to any girl I want, friends or not.

I was not able to gather my balls and walk up to women.

Why??

The parallels between business and picking up women

The idea of approaching women was absolutely daunting.

I wish I was able to do it, and I’ve done it a couple times. (like 7 total, in 3 years.)

I was comfortable enough with how many girls I am getting, and that was the problem.

If I was in more pain, I would be taking more action.

But the pain of rejection was way more potent than the pain of not having 10x the amount of girls I was interacting with.

Thinking about that part of my life made me realize that I’m having the same exact problem again, not with girls anymore, but with business.

I didn’t know it at first, I just thought maybe I was lazy and I didn’t want it bad enough so I didn’t take as much action as I wanted.

But the truth? I still fear rejections.

I started laughing to myself because the parallels between that time of my life and this time of my life was so apparent.

I still haven’t break out of the same “fear of rejection spell”.

Every step of the way of picking up women is a chance to get rejected.

Same as every step of the way in business.

“What will my friends and family think?”

“What will this stranger whom I’m selling to think?”

“I hope this person doesn’t hate me for this.”

“Oh my God I’m just so shy I can’t do it.”

Deep down I know that these rejections are waiting for me at the end of finally setting up my business.

And that’s exactly what’s keeping me from being productive, because the longer I take to get to the selling phase, the later I will get rejected.

Well no more.

My dad used to always tell me:

“Don’t get tripped by the same stone twice.”

This is that fucking stone. The fear of rejection, keeping me from winning.

It’s a huge mental battle for me but I promise myself I will duke it out no matter what.

Too much is at stake, and I can’t let my inner bitch win yet again.

The only way I know how to overcome the fear of rejection at this moment is to have something else I fear more to push me.

And that’s pretty much the fear of regret, and some anger on the side, seasoned with a bit of disgust towards my own inner bitch.

I can say that 80% of us not taking action all stemmed from being worried about rejections one way or another.

I can’t tell you exactly how you should fight your battles, but the least I can do is to show you that this is the real battle that you’re actually fighting.

It’s not your laziness, not your ADHD or sleep cycle, not your parents, not your circumstances.

It’s all fear of rejection.

Now you know where the real battle needs to take place.

It’s time for us to fight them.

Below will be a link to my 1st ever YouTube video (2 mins 20 secs).

It’s my attempt to fight against my fear and it was absolutely terrifying to be on camera and posting it online.

But this is my way of fighting so I will also send it here, hopefully it’ll be enough to inspire some of us to start taking action.

Hopefully my personal experience and world view has some kind of positive influence over you. If you’re still not sure what’s right for you, don’t hesitate to reach out to me on any of my socials.

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